December 2006
REBIRTH
"I choose to Accept Responsibility
for My Spiritual Growth."
Last year,
I asked Miriem (my Guide) how to describe myself and my work and I received "Rebirther".
I didn't
know what "Rebirther" meant, so I Googled it and discovered a Rebirther in Charlotte who teaches breathwork.
"Well, I don't do that," I thought.
Busy with work and family, I postponed my quest for the meaning
of Rebirther and basically forgot about it until last month...
A client and I had just finished a very successful,
private, one-on-one workshop. We were hugging and she was describing her transformation from the four hours we had spent
together..."It's like a rebirth!" she said...
there was my answer.
I AM a Rebirther. It's
so clear now.
My client had created her own rebirth by having the courage and caring enough for herself to seek
assistance.
I was merely the facilitator.
She had done the work...on herself.
She took action
to change her life. As a midwife aids the mother in giving birth to her child by coaching, massaging and instructing,
I aided my client in giving birth to her new belief in herself, feelings of confidence, purpose and security in who she really
is.
I am so honored to have made such a difference in my Soul Siblings life...and very grateful that she gave me
the gift of explaining what Rebirther means!
As many celebrate the birth of Jesus this Christmas Holiday Season,
we too can choose to accept responsibility and take action to experience our own rebirth as positive, confident and loving
Spiritual beings.
Have a fabulous Holiday!
With Much Love,
Dr. Vicki
THANKSGIVING
"What I Fail to Appreciate...
I Lose."
I
was complaining to a friend about the contractor remodeling our kitchen behaving like he has ADD
(Attention Deficit Disorder)
and how I had to make him a list of his duties everyday to keep
him on track.
My friend just laughed and said,
"If that's your biggest problem right now, you're doing
pretty well. Let's get a little perspective
here."
I paused to look out through my new patio doors at the lake with the sun shining on the rippling
water and knew I had fallen into the ever-so-easy habit of Failing to Appreciate What I Have
and Where I Am in Life.
My friend is unemployed and hasn't been able to find a suitable position for over six months.
His step-father
just died and his mother has health problems. To him, my "problems" were
merely annoyances to my cozy,
happy family life.
He was right.
My family is happy and healthy and thriving...we are very blessed.
Sometimes it takes another's situation and perspective to show us how good things really
are for us...
To
give us that gentle reminder...
to APPRECIATE.
Like Attracts Like.
APPRECIATION brings more positive
and better things, situations and people to us.
Complaining brings more negative things, situations and people
to us.
Choose to Appreciate.
Draw Good to You.
Happy Thanksgiving!
AWAKENING
"I have the Courage to Open My Eyes
and See the Truth in my relationships."
I overheard
a young woman's cell phone conversation recently..."I am so embarassed by the way he
treated me in public.
He said he cared for me." She then went on to discuss her plans to call him.
This was the classic example
of choosing to remain asleep...fear of facing the truth.
Sometimes Truth can be painful: "he doesn't really
care for me" and other times it is joyous: "she loves me"...
Truth is always, always, always Liberating.
"The Truth will set you free," is not just an old cliche...it is...
well, TRUTH.
How do you know
if you are seeing the truth?
Look at Actions.
Words are helpful in seeking Truth, but words can also camouflage,
confuse, redirect, blame, guilt,
manipulate, intimidate, seduce and convince.
Words are tricky...subjective.
Actions are more objective.
How someone acts...how they treat you and others, alone and in public, shows you
their true feelings.
When actions and words are in agreement, it is easier to see TRUTH.
When actions
conflict with words, seeing TRUTH can become difficult, especially when a part of us
longs for those words to be true.
This is when Courage is needed.
Along with Trust in the Universe and Yourself...your own Strength and Ability
to Handle whatever comes
your way.
You Must Believe in Yourself...and Open Your Eyes.
Be FREE.
September 2006
HARVEST
"I am Ready and Open to Reap
the Positive Bounty I have Sewn."
September begins in the Astrological sign of Virgo, the Harvester and ends in Libra,
the sign of Justice
& Balance.
We will see the Results of our Actions hence far this year and receive our Resulting
Just Rewards.
Know that you earned Whatever you Reap.
If Positive, thank the Universe and Yourself for your Joyful Co-creation.
You are
on your correct Path.
If Negative, the Universe is showing you where you need to Change and therefore
GROW so you may receive a more joyous Bounty next year. It takes great courage
to take responsibility for our
actions and courage is always rewarded.
If you are off path, positive seeds spread NOW will lead you back.
See this time as a Rebalancing...not a punishment.
August
2006
"HEAT"
"When in conflict situations,
I am free and safe to speak my truth."
The fear and/or uncomfortableness
of conflict can impede us from speaking up for ourselves
and our loved ones.
We are placed in situations
and scenarios for our growth.
We are forced to deal with unpleasant people to learn how to express and protect
ourselves.
When someone is overstepping our personal boundaries, we must find the courage to speak up.
As the Spiritual Teacher Pema Chodron says, "The most loving thing we can do for another is to set boundaries with
them to teach them to respect us."
July 2006
FIREWORKS
"Your Belief in Yourself and Taking
Action
on your goals sets off a chain reaction
of Synchronistic Events
like the crackling of a fireworks show!"
Once you decide What You Want to Achieve, the Universe gets into position and waits.
Your
Taking Action toward the Goal is akin to lighting a fireworks fuse.
When you light that fuse, all sorts of "natural
coincidences" begin to take place.
These "coincidences" propel you forward toward achieving your
goal.
You step back and look on in awe.
Your unseen friends are waiting to put on a show for you.
Light that fuse.
Go for your Dream!
June 2006BLOOMS
"I take ACTION to ensure
my chosen buds of Reality
blossom into beautiful blooms."
Once you have chosen your desired buds of reality for your Bouquet of Life, you
must water, feed, prune and otherwise tend to your buds so they will bloom.
Failure to act to
nurture your buds, inattention to what MUST be done for them to grow, causes your buds to wither and die.
Action is a necessity for your Chosen Reality to Bloom.
May
2006
FLOWERS
"I
create my bouquet of Life from the buds of Reality
others offer to me and I accept."
Our
Soul Siblings are constantly offering potential Realities to us.
The third step, after recognizing a Shenpa moment
and Detaching, becoming the Silent Observer,
is to see the Reality being offered.
Calmly contemplate this
offered Reality.
Do you choose to Accept this bud for your bouquet of Life?
Is this offered Reality acceptable
to you?
This is the crucial step many unawakened ones skip.
Without thinking, they have a bouquet of
thorns.
April 2006
SHOWERS
"I will shower myself with Love and Acceptance
and ignore the storm of unlove others may
offer to me."
Now that you have become aware
of your Shenpa moments (the first step), we move on to how to effectively deal with them.
The second step
is to Detach...mentally put emotional distance between
you and the person, event or thoughts.
Remember,
everything everyone does is about them...not you.
How you react is about you.
Say the word "Detach"
to yourself as your trigger to disassociate.
Attachment to outside forces/events keeps us (and our self-esteem)
controlled by them.
The ability to detach places us back in command of our own life.
Once
Detached, you are able to view the situation more objectively...
you step out of the role of victim and into your
role as "Silent Observer"...
now you are observing why the other person may be offering unlove to you...
or why the event may be happening...or what is actually happening...
or why you reacted the way you did (contracting
your energy in fear/protection)...
ponder these questions.
You are evolving.
"I will stand strong in my Belief in Myself...
as the old, sturdy oak tree...
unyielding in the midst of the winds of negativity swirling around me."
Some teachers call it "Shenpa"...our
body's reaction when someone attacks, rejects or betrays us or things go wrong.
We clench up, hold our
breath, contracting our energy in for protection...
it is a fearful reaction.
We have forgotten...
Who We Are...
for just a moment.
And we usually become very angry...
angry
at what they are attempting to do to us (limit us, lie to us, use us, control us).
We have forgotten...
No one can do anything to us that we do not allow them to do...on some level.
If we do not learn
to deal with shenpa moments, we are as the leaf blowing in the wind...
we will be easily and repeatedly blown off
course.
To be focused, determined, sure and therefore effective in this world,
we must be like
the unmoving oak...standing tall, strong and fearless,
whether in a light breeze of mild negativity or a tornado.
Begin by becoming the "Silent Observer"...
step outside of yourself and watch your reactions...
catch your shenpa moments...don't fight them...it is okay...
we all have them.
For
now, acknowledging you are having a shenpa moment is enough...
it is the beginning...
of realizing Who
You Are.
RELATIONSHIPS
"Relationships are Work...on yourself,
not
the other person."
If we are in a relationship, it is so easy to focus on what our partner could change
that would be so great...for us.
We think that if our partner would just lose weight, make more money,
keep the house cleaner, be happier, (you fill in the blank),
then everything would be better.
But...alas...our
issues are really about us...not them.
It always comes back to our being the creators of our own reality and
Like attracting Like.
Whatever is happening in your life right now, on SOME LEVEL,
you asked
for it...because no one can create your reality but you.
You are the Master Creator.
Like attracts Like.
What are choosing to attract today?
CHOOSE LOVE...and guess what you'll attract!
January 2006
UNDERSTANDING
"Everyone does the best they can
with the Knowledge and Understanding
they
have at the time."
Let's face it...sometimes other people drive us crazy...or just get on our nerves.
We try to be Spiritual, which means loving to all people.
We try so hard!
And then that one
person who seems to always be able to push our buttons
does IT again!
Ooooooooh...we want to explode
and...well, we don't feel very spiritual.
We may even feel like failures.
We meditate...we send
love to the Universe...we follow the Golden Rule...
we've committed our lives to becoming the best soul we
can be and
never intentionally hurting another...
so we are not supposed to feel like strangling another
soul sibling...
are we? Doesn't it make us bad?
No...it doesn't make you BAD.
It is part of being in a human body...
Negativity comes with the flesh suit.
Just don't act on
that strangling impulse...wouldn't be good.
We are all at different spiritual development levels and
everyone has their own specific areas of study for this life.
When someone is exhibiting behavior that you consider
stupid or mean
or spiteful or resentful or classless, try saying to yourself:
"I've
already learned that lesson...they must be working on
that this life."
See them as the student they are and forgive them for irritating you.
If you find yourself being irritated a
lot, you have too much stored negativity
and could benefit greatly from a cleansing.
Try the YIN Cleansing
Meditation CD!
